Category Archives: Just Life

All things where people are physically being social out & about in the world ie events, parties, people.

By Bethany Jae [dot] com

Hey Guys!

The time has finally come! My new blog is up + running. This is my very last post on itsasocialthing. To those I know + those who I’ve never met, thank you for sharing in this journey. But a better one is here.

I truly hope you make the change + head on over to… bybethanyjae.com.

If you liked this blog, I know you’ll like the new one. More content will be added to it over the coming days, but for now, it’s just an introduction + base for what’s to come.

So in case you missed it…. the new blog can be found at: bybethanyjae.com. I repeat, bybethanyjae.com.

Thanks again, & I look forward to starting a new journey with you at bybethanyjae.com.

Lot’s of lovin’

Beth x

[PS: The new blog is bybethanyjae.com…;) ]

New Blog Update (including launch date!)

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Hey Everyone,

Okay, following up from the last post, I now have an update! On Monday, 19th March, aka THIS Monday, my new blog will be launched. I’ll post from here one last time with the link, but then after that it’s au revoir to itsasocialthing, and hello to <insert new blog name>.

In total honesty, would have loved for it to be launched on 1 March, but the process got delayed. And that’s totally fine 🙂

Oh, & the new blog will be more in depth about the other two things I briefly talked about from the last post.

Have the best week, & will post you on Monday! By the way, the pic below is the new site (minus the content)..

Much love x

Sometimes Crickets Are Good… aka REALLY EXCITING BLOG UPDATE!

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Sorry for the crickets on this blog guys! I’ve been putting off posting because I know that as soon as I hit the blue ‘Publish‘ button, I can’t back down from what you’re about to read.

Since my last post, things have been crazy busy, frustrating as, & making sense as I’ve been planning out, thinking & pondering, lot’s.

So, I thought I should post a little update about what’s been happening…

Project #1: A Book

Yes, a book. It’s something I started writing in November 2009 as a blog, which I then stopped & turned into a personal journal. I later decided to turn that journal into a book, & voila, the first draft is completed!

Am I going to publish it? Uhh yes. When? Not too sure. How? You’ll have to wait & see. It’s all in ‘the plan’…

Happy face for finishing the first draft! Woo's all round!

Project #2: New WeBSITE

This blog is my baby. It met the criteria I needed for my University subject, to then being a platform where I could write about my mission trips to the Philippines. But there comes a time when one season ends & the new one begins.

I’ve just finished University so life has taken another turn. And right now, I feel like it’s a good time to start afresh! Why? Because sometimes you need to cut all ties with the past so you can freely flourish into the future – so I’m cutting the ties guys!

The new website will be similar to this, but really different. I’ve been working on it for a bit & am completely stoked! It will be launched over the next couple of weeks (aiming for Thursday, 1 March…).

Project #3: You’ll just have to wait & see…..

THAT’S LIFE

So, that’s life at the moment. And as Donald Miller once wrote

“fear is a manipulative emotion that can trick us into living a boring life.” 

Cut the ties. Fear no more. And live the life of colour you’ve always wanted to live. Seriously.

The Little Things

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Life is about the little things. And it’s the little things that make up the big things.

So far my week has been made up of: planning, writing, emailing, designing, thinking, Googling, researching, planning, cleaning, writing, thinking, subscribing to new found blogs, planning, emailing, receiving rejection emails, emailing, planning, + more planning.

In fact, throughout my thinking + planning, I realised what my 2012 goal or vision is:

“Putting pen to paper, and action to dreams.”

Why? Because as much as I adore typing + using loverly technology to note stuff down, there’s something incredibly authentic about picking up a pen + writing on actual paper. Everyone’s writing is different, so they leave a different mark; it’s a beautiful thing.

And why action to dreams? Because I don’t want to be 5-years down the track + only feeling alive when I dream. I want those dreams to become a reality so I can truly live.

It’s the little things that I do today that will become the big things in the future. It’s how I deal with a ‘rejection email’ that will form my appreciation of the successes. It’s what or who I discover today through researching that will create the connections needed to build tomorrow.

And it’s the planning. There’s nothing sadder than getting closer to what you want to do + having it crumble because you didn’t plan it wisely.

Dream it. Write it down. Plan it out. Take a step. Be thankful, always.

‘Great things are done by a series of small things brought together.’ – Vincent van Gogh

Two Paths

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“Are you a born writer? Were you put on earth to be a painter, a scientist, an apostle of peace? In the end the question can only be answered by action.
Do it or don’t do it. It may help to think of it this way. If you were meant to cure cancer or write a symphony or crack cold fusion and you don’t do it, you not only hurt yourself, even destroy yourself. You hurt your children. You hurt me. You hurt the planet.

You shame the angels who watch over you and you spite the Almighty, who created you and only you with your unique gifts, for the sole purpose of nudging the human race one millimeter farther along its path back to God.

Creative work is not a selfish act or a bid for attention on the part of the actor. It’s a gift to the world and every being in it. Don’t cheat us of your contribution.

Give us what you’ve got.” 

[From Steven Pressfield’s book, The War Of Art].

Since reading this excerpt a couple of weeks ago, it’s been swirling around in my brain. See, life at the moment for me is kind of at a crossroads and there are literally only two paths I can choose:

Path 1: Putting action to the dream; that one thing that keeps me up at night and gets me excited about the future. But the only problem is that I have no idea what step to take next.

Path 2: Doing something temporarily that will help my present, but not necessarily the future.

Pressfield’s quote really challenged me when thinking about these paths.

Why? Because my one fear in life is leaving this world with the wrong imprint. I don’t want to go through life writing a story that’s not meant to be written by me. And heck, I don’t want to live an insignificant life.

I know what I have to do. Do you?  What’s your contribution going to be in this world? Don’t let us down. We need you.

How He Loves (Song): The Story Is The Power

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Stories could quite possibly be the most powerful weapon when it comes to impacting someone’s life. Not the made up “Once upon a time blah blah blah” jazz, but the stories about a real person.

Artist’s, writers and candlestick makers create from the core of their soul. Sometimes it can be scary, sometimes it can be easy. But when you look, hear or smell their work, you can tell if they’ve put their blood, sweat and tears into it by how deeply it resonates and impacts you.

Take the song How He Loves for example. Upon hearing it nearly five years ago, it impacted me greatly… especially when I discovered what the the song is actually about.

After Jesus Culture and David Crowder Band covered it, it became an anthem in the church and the cry of people’s hearts around the world. Many believed that Jesus Culture wrote it while others thought David Crowder Band did (and some people get waaaaaaay to fired up about who wrote it. Just check YouTube comments). But no, John Mark McMillan humbly wrote it.

And the state of his heart at the time of its inception is what makes the story behind this song so powerful – written as a tribute to his friend Stephen Coffey.

See, Coffey was a youth pastor. One night at a church prayer meeting he prayed: “I’d give my life today if it would shake the youth of the nation.” And that night he died in a car accident.

McMillan didn’t write that song from a joyous heart expressing just how much God loves us; he wrote it while mourning the death of his best friend.

Lines such as: “I am a tree, bending beneath the weight of His wind and mercy”; “If grace is an ocean we’re all sinking”; and “So heaven meets earth like a sloppy wet kiss” resonated with people’s hearts because it presented images of God’s love in a way that hadn’t necessarily been done or sung about before.

But there’s a last verse to this song that’s only on his original CD. It says:

I thought about you 
/ The day Stephen died
 / And you met me between my breaking
 / I know that I still love you God
 / Despite the agony 
/ See people they want to tell me your cruel 
/ But if Stephen could sing 
/ He’d say its not true 
/ Cause your good

How He Loves has shaken the lives of millions of people around the world…the impact Coffey had prayed that his life would be.

It isn’t just a powerful song because of the brilliant lyrics and images that it evokes of God’s love, or even for the simplicity of its message. It’s a powerful song because of the rawness of the story that birthed it, and the courage McMillan had in letting the world see it.

And that’s what makes something created so powerful – the story. We’re all created beings with a story, are you courageous enough to let people hear it? Your life, your story will change the world.

How He Loves lyrics:

He is jealous for me
 / Loves like a hurricane
 / I am a tree
 / Bending beneath
 / The weight of his wind and mercy
 / When all of a sudden
 / I am unaware of these
 / Afflictions eclipsed by glory
 / And I realize how beautiful you are
 / And how great your afflictions for me



Oh how he loves us so
 / Oh how he loves us
 / How he loves us so /  He loves us
 / Oh how



We are his portion
 / And he is our prize
 / Drawn to redemption by the grace in his eyes
 / If grace is an ocean we’re all sinking
 / So heaven meats earth like a sloppy wet kiss
 / And my heart burns violently inside of my chest
 / I don’t have time to maintain these regrets
 / When I think about the way


I thought about you
 / The day Stephen died
 / And you met me between my breaking
 / I know that I still love you God
 / Despite the agony
 / See people they want to tell me your cruel
 / But if Stephen could sing
 / He’d say its not true
 / Cause your good

Schmich, Sunscreen & Youth

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I know this blog is supposed to be original & rarara, but when you come across a beautiful piece of work from someone else that leaves you inspired, you simply have to share it.

Below is a column from the Chicago Tribune titled, Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young. It was written by Mary Schmich in 1997 (even though it has been wrongly attributed to Kurt Vonnegut by some). It’s the commencement speech that Schmich would make if she were ever given the opportunity to make one.

Take a read (or a listen), because it’s absolutely marvellous!

Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young by Mary Schmich (1997)

Inside every adult lurks a graduation speaker dying to get out, some world-weary pundit eager to pontificate on life to young people who’d rather be Rollerblading. Most of us, alas, will never be invited to sow our words of wisdom among an audience of caps and gowns, but there’s no reason we can’t entertain ourselves by composing a Guide to Life for Graduates.

I encourage anyone over 26 to try this and thank you for indulging my attempt.Ladies and gentlemen of the class of ’97:

Wear sunscreen.

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they’ve faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.

Don’t worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing every day that scares you.

Sing.

Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts. Don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours.

Floss.

Don’t waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind. The race is long and, in the end, it’s only with yourself.

Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch.

Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don’t.

Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees. You’ll miss them when they’re gone.

Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don’t congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else’s.

Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don’t be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own.

Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.

Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them.

Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.

Get to know your parents. You never know when they’ll be gone for good. Be nice to your siblings. They’re your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft. Travel.

Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you’ll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don’t expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you’ll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.

Don’t mess too much with your hair or by the time you’re 40 it will look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.

But trust me on the sunscreen.

Source: http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/columnists/chi-schmich-sunscreen-column,0,5909206,full.column